This is the change I've been promising and I am starting with a controversial opinion!
Ok, so for the past couple of weeks I’ve been saying I wanted to do something a bit different; well, here it is! I figure I have demonstrated the prescriptive journaling enough for you to get an idea of how to use it, so now I am going to just ‘talk’ to you each week. Plus I am sure you have seen enough tears from me, and I want to share other aspects of my journey too. I truly believe that people have the ability to change their own lives and we all deserve happiness. These insights will be only my opinion and sometimes you may disagree and I invite you to respectfully share your thoughts too.
Please as always keep yourself safe and if at any time you find the content of this blog upsetting or overwhelming, I encourage you to reach out and talk to a trusted friend, family member, or Lifeline Australia (see link below).
Why not start with some controversy?!
Recently we have had the terrible news reports of children being sexually assaulted in the media and this brings the inevitable outcries in social media for capital punishment or vigilantly retributions for the offenders. I cannot imagine, as a parent the pain and anger I would be feeling if this was my daughter. But as someone who has a lived experience of sexual abuse, I don’t know how helpful it is in stopping the cycle of abuse. I believe there are a lot of people who as either a result of past trauma and or brain chemistry (be it, a type of mental illness) are predisposed to becoming perpetrators of abuse towards children. It is so rampant in our community, yet we as a society keep pushing it further underground. There would be some people who are at risk of offending who may want to change their behaviour, but with the stigma or societal backlash they would never seek treatment to change, let alone admit to a health care professional they are having these thoughts.
Children often do not report abuse while it is happening, but as adults may enter counselling and disclose it as historical abuse. Then even if the abusers are prosecuted, our judicial system does not work to deter or ‘fix’ child sex offenders; we need to change how we address the issue. No child should be at risk of being abused. I would love to see as part of sex education in schools a section about abuse and deviant feelings/thoughts; age appropriate and delivered by professional mental health care workers. If as a society we could reach young people/adults before they began to abuse, imagine the impact it could have. I know this may sound like I am excusing abhorrent behaviour; I am not. If someone is found to be harming a child, they should be removed from any situation it could reoccur and sometimes that would mean incarceration indefinitely. I am suggesting that we need to start looking at it from a different perspective.